How to Handle It When Your Teacher Doesn’t Seem to Like You

Sometimes personalities just don’t click — but when the person you’re clashing with is responsible for your grades, it can affect your confidence and even your interest in the subject. If you believe a teacher doesn’t like you, it’s often better to address the situation than to let it drag on for the rest of the year.

First, Check the Facts

Ask yourself what’s making you feel this way. Is it based purely on your marks? If so, be sure you’re not blaming the teacher for something that might be due to your own effort or preparation. Was it a single comment or incident? Maybe your teacher was having a bad day, or perhaps their tone simply comes across as strict to everyone.

If your classmates also feel the same way, it might just be the teacher’s manner rather than a personal issue.

Could It Be You?

If you still feel your teacher’s attitude toward you is off, it’s worth some honest self-reflection. Have you done anything, even unintentionally, to create tension? Do you talk in class, distract others, or push boundaries? While you’re not responsible for another person’s behaviour, looking at the situation from every angle will help you find the best way forward.

Have the Conversation

If, after careful thought, you still believe the relationship is strained, consider speaking directly to your teacher. It’s not an easy discussion, but it can help you develop important life skills in handling difficult conversations.

Ask politely for a private meeting rather than discussing it in a busy classroom or staffroom. Be respectful in your request — respect is more likely to be returned.

At the meeting, be open but tactful. You might say:

“Ms X, I feel like we’re not connecting as well as I’d like, and I’d like to know how I can make things better.”

Show humility, even if you suspect the problem lies with them. Let them know the impact it’s having on your subject engagement:

“I used to enjoy Maths, but now I’m finding it harder to stay motivated, and I don’t want that to continue.”

Many teachers care deeply about their subject, so expressing concern about losing interest may encourage them to work with you more positively.

If Things Don’t Improve

Sometimes, even a respectful and honest conversation won’t solve the problem — and in rare cases, it could even make things worse. If the behaviour feels unfair or unprofessional, consider escalating the matter to a Head of Department, Year Advisor, or Assistant Principal. Keep your language respectful to avoid looking like you’re simply holding a grudge. If possible, you may request a class change.

Should Parents Step In?

While it may be tempting to let your parents handle it, this is a valuable opportunity to develop your own problem-solving and communication skills. Not everyone you meet in life will like you — and that’s okay. The goal is to work productively with your teacher, even if you don’t personally connect.

By approaching the situation with maturity and respect, you might even impress your teacher enough to turn the relationship around. And if you ever feel the need for extra academic guidance beyond the classroom dynamic, Aussie Edu Hub provides expert one-on-one tutoring to help you stay confident and on track, no matter the circumstances.